Note: It is best to practice these concepts way before you ever attend any interview.
Your state of mind when you are attending an interview can make or break you. At times, you might be very nervous. It is understandable that you might be worried and a little bit afraid of the outcome of the interview. But you know what? You are afraid because of your focus on the negative outcome of the interview.
Quite a number of people have lost their chances of getting a job because they could not handle the pressure of sitting through an interview. In fact, some pretty well qualified people have seen their chances for a job slip by on this count alone. They have the skills, they have the aptitude but they fail in maintaining a great state of mind at the interview.
Assuming that all things are constant:
- You have the desired qualifications that the interview panel is looking for,
- You have the desired references,
- You have the needed experience,
- You have prepared yourself well after school as experts recommend
- You have a great appearance and grooming
- You have a pretty well prepared Resume
Assume also that you are not the only person who meets the above criteria. Assume that there are 50 other candidates who are just like you. What varies therefore falls into the following categories:
- Your Difference in Personality
- Your Difference in the way you tell stories
Without beating about the bush, we can tell you straight up that if you can master the habit of being ‘carefree’, then you get into a heightened state of self-confidence. This greatly influences the chances that you have as compared to the other 50 people. Many people lose their self-confidence because they care too much. Caring too much is not necessarily a bad thing but the problem is that they care too much about not getting the opportunity!
What this does is to effectively paralyze them. Therefore, they lose creativity; they lose their charisma, flair and appear as if they need grace and mercy from the interviewing panel. They appear as if they are needy and only banking (it appears to the panel as if you are begging) on the interviewers to show some great human trait of loving kindness to give you a job.
Grace, Mercy, Loving-kindness on the part of the interviewers is not what will give you a job. Your self-confidence and the ability to showcase your worth, flair and charisma is what will endear you greatly to the interviewing panel. So if you get into this habit of “putting your life in the hands of the interviewing panel”, remember that you are selling yourself short.
Your state of mind, your self-confidence and esteem are factors that determine whether you get the job and if applied appropriately can give one a competitive edge.
They are looking for a self-motivated person, a leader, a go-getter, an influencer, a problem solver and maybe a critical thinker. This means that you have to be sure about yourself. If you are not, at least you have to present yourself as if you are sure about yourself. The only way that you can do this is to get in a great state of being ‘carefree’. Whenever you are in the presence of an interviewing panel, what they need to see is someone who is motivated, inspired, confident, happy, with an aura of certainty about life, not about the outcome of the interview.
The following seven simple principles can be used to improve your state of mind.
- Know that you do not know everything, so do not sweat it: They are also not looking for a genius. They just want someone who can do the job well. So even if you are not able to answer a question correctly, do not anchor your emotion on it. Your anchor for your state of mind should be that it shall be well in your life regardless. So do not sweat it.
- Realize that your life does not necessarily depend on this interview: This is a fact. Before you can go for the interview, you should be fully aware and totally surrendered to the outcome of the interview before you can sit for it. This comes by realizing that one way or another, you are a great person and you will make it in life, with or without this job you are interviewing for.
- Realize that it is OK to fail an interview: And on that note, also realize that what you have failed in is not really a failure, but an opportunity to learn how to do better. So anytime you fail an interview, do not think you have become weak. No! Treat this as a wonderful learning experience. Promise yourself to be better in what you failed the next time.
- Practice detachment: This is the ultimate way of being carefree. To be detached means that you are confident with what you have to present and you do not have to sweat it and spend sleepless nights thinking about the interview
- Practice psychology that generates a great state of mind: Believe it or not, you need to practice how to smile, how to grin, how to wink and a host of all other positive emotions over and over again. Your physiology automatically determines your state of mind. Do not do this principle the night before the interview, but make this a lifestyle. Go ahead and imagine that you are the Manager they are looking for and start modeling how a manager behaves. This will attract that position to you.
- Be an inverse paranoid: Have this belief that all things are working and conspiring together for your good. All the good, the bad and the ugly. Regardless of the outcome of the interview, you should believe that your life will still be okay.
- Practice to ask yourself better questions: Questions create focus instantly. Ask yourself questions such as: Suppose I succeed? How can I be a great help to this company? Why are these people finding me so inspired and cut out for this position? Ask these types of questions and shun the negative ones such as: Will I really get this job? Will they like my new suit? And so on.
What attracts positive or negative outcomes in our lives is also a result of the State of Mind we are in. The thing with State of mind is that you can consciously practice to put yourself in a better State of Mind at all times. When many people are attending interviews, they are never at their best state of mind. They are nervous wrecks. They are worrisome. They are in an inferior state of mind. They present themselves as a lamb ready for slaughter in a slaughter house. They are not in control. They cede control of their emotions to this moment. A host of them are allowing a hoard of negative emotions to calibrate their thoughts and feelings.
The outcome is normally lack of confidence from the people interviewing them. However, once in awhile when an interviewing panel finds someone whose skill set are good and at the same time they do have great confidence, great attitude and most importantly a great sense of self assurance and carefree attitude, they are a special blend for hire. They are emotionally intelligent.
The good news is that you can practice having an amazing positive state of mind for a period of time before you attend an interview. Please also note that this healthy state of mind is not just for you to pass an interview, but it is a great tool to use throughout your life.